ad V Idus Martias

The fifth day before the Ides of March.

The Order of Service is complete (with a nice rewrite of the rings exchange that Sage did yesterday included), and I just picked up the actual programmes for the service. Amazon is delivering a bazillion balloons and stuff to Mindy for the reception. Suits are reserved. Hotel and car rented.

Butterflies, butterflies.

Now, I spend the next 3 days trying not to panic, that everyone involved knows what to do, that everything is going to go smoothly. Which, I’m sure, is true, because we have a circle of friends who are amazing at making wonderful things happen and you’ve all been stepping up and taking things out of my hands and making them better than I could have done myself. It’s heartwarming and wonderful and … terrifying.

I’m a programmer. I write code every day with things that say, (assert nil). That’s program code for, “this should never happen.” Parse that again: I work in a field where I intentionally plan for things that are impossible and write code to handle it. So here, I’m stretching my paranoid imaginings to things like, “what happens if the bar burns down on Friday?” It’s so hard to trust that the constants in reality will not vary. Blah.

Trying to relax. Nothing terribly bad has happened on the Ides of March for 2,057 years. And who even pays attention to ad XVII Kal. Apr? The 16° of March is a notoriously disaster-free day. Right?

See you all in 5 days.

ante diem III nonēs Martiās

3 days to the nonēs of March … then another 6 to the idēs … and then the Wedding.

Still chasing down leads for a replacement photographer. (Any hints, anyone?)

Most everything else has fallen into place. Church, rehearsal, reception, suits, catering.

In other news, my fever over the last week finally seems to have given up. Amen.

Wedding Updates (yes, again!)

26 Days: and Counting

Well, this update is mostly banal; we’ve been concerning ourselves with details like table centerpieces and tuxedo fittings.

  • We’ve had a serious hiccough  and lost our original photographer, but are chasing down some leads on other options.
  • Mindy of Professor Whisky’s Traveling Bizarre Bazaar has taken away my permission to “micro-manage” (her word) the Reception plans, and now has a stack of glassware and funky acrylic beads and is placing orders for crepe paper. I fear the crepe may become an endangered species.
  • We’ve finished the (church-mandated) premarital counseling sessions (albeit with a little piece of homework) and have pretty much all of the details ironed out.
  • Jacksonville is giving us the gift of cleanliness: the St John’s river cleanup is going on the morning of the wedding, so the whole town may be cleaner than usual… yay!
  • It seems that someone (perhaps the Public Works office) has randomly built a very large mountain of dirt in front of the reception hall.
  • We also have some thank-you notes to mail out already, including a much-belated one to my cousin David and his wife Christine, the donors of the mysterious knife set I’d mentioned previously. Another mystery solved.
  • I don’t think I had posted it, but the Rings were delivered. Yay!

Recurring questions include:

  • Dress code: Ties aren’t overrated, but don’t worry too much about it, the bouncers are really lax!
  • Gift registry (see the wedding web site, if you’re curious)
  • and if we need a hand with “anything”: yes, Mindy could use some hands to set and strike the Reception, we can put you in touch with her.

I’ll update the wedding web site (for the last time, perhaps?) shortly.


Update: something chewed up my post in weird ways earlier. Cleaned it up, today.

Wedding FAQ’s and News

Frequently Asked Questions this week:

What should we wear? We’re mostly just happy that you come! But, generally, something on the order of “business casual” or more formal would be appropriate

Can I help? We do really need a couple more people for the “advance team” to set up the reception hall on Saturday morning. If you’re in Jacksonville, and will be available … ?

Is there a gift registry? Um, yes … we are registered through Amazon.


The rings are on their way!!

sapphire on silver for me, emerald for Sage …

Wedding Invitations

Yes, they have arrived. Tonight, I collate, and tomorrow, they should be in the mail.

Thanks to Shelley and Chris at Quality Images, who have worked through my amateur efforts and made something wonderful.

If you know anything about printing, the centre-bifold design here with the very precise cropping and artwork alignment is a bit of a nightmare to get right, and I’d all but resigned myself to the fact that there would be some amount of irregularity to it.

There isn’t.

They’re perfect.

You’ll see. It’s just one more good omen.

On other news, Internet cheap-printing-with-high-pressure-upselling powerhouse VistaPrint has also produced some very nice vinyl banners for the reception, that I designed off the same theme as the invitations and so forth, and those arrived (Thursday? or Friday?) as well. So far, so good. Everything is coming up roses …

By the Way: Mystery Knives

By the Way …

We got some pretty mystery knives. Maybe someone reading this can shed some light.

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Invitations are going to press

OK. It’s happened. The wedding invitations are going to the presses.

Which means, I get to have an origami party (serves me right for coming up with a complicated design!) and stuff envelopes for all of you some evening(s) next week … and, y’all should expect to see them in your mailboxes by the end of the month.Wedding Invitation low-res



As you’d expect, spoilers follow.

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